Christmas night I had a few quiet hours after the kids went to bed to do some thinking and planning. I thought about this year and all that has happened. This year my middles officially started first grade. My oldest daughter has decided she wants to do high school in three years instead of four so her first year has been a freshman/sophomore combo, and My oldest went to college! We harvested apples and peaches for the first time since living on this property.
As I was thinking how this year went, I inevitably began to recall the things I would have done differently and things of that nature. Once I got in that mindset, I quickly wrote the note below in my planner.
I need to take the time to teach, repeat, repeat the right behavior. Speak with love. Speak with honor. Connect with my kids individually, daily. Allow them to help (and not redo it). Take more photos. Smile more. Say compliments, not just think them. Praise my children. Say please and thank you- and mean it. Leave rooms better than when I entered. *Do one more*
Let me clarify some of that for you. The repeat, repeat right behavior came from a podcast I heard recently. It’s really good. You can’t go wrong with anything from Mystie Winkler. The idea of speaking with honor came to me from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes… in You and Your Kids. “Do one more” mentality stems from a post I read over on Large Family Table. The rest is pretty self-explanatory.
Those aren’t goals per se, but more like personal changes I want to see in myself. My goals for 2018 are products of me putting those desired changes into action.
Making Time For What Matters Most
Make Birthdays Special
Of course we celebrate birthdays around here, don’t get me wrong, but I’ve gotten away from making them special. We used to make the whole day special with decorations, plans, and the birthday person picked the food for the day. To be sure I have time to plan and money to budget, I’m writing my ideas on the monthly pages of my planner.
This one may sound silly, but hear me out. We haven’t had family photos done in six years. Every stinkin time we plan to get them done something happens. Someone is sick. Ray ends up having to work. It’s absolutely ridiculous. So this year I really, really want to make those photos happen. I mean, we have four more kids since the last time we had them done!
Tuesday Game Night
Every Tuesday used to be game night. I’d make special snacks and Ray and I would stay up with the big kids playing games like Settlers of Catan and Risk. We got Ticket to Ride for Christmas. It’s our new favorite! No wonder all my friends recommend it!
The more I think about it, I realize that I’ve put off the most important thing (family time) and taken on all the silly burdens of keeping the house clean, worrying about what the inside of closets looks like . . . it’s time for a change.
Family Movie Night
For as long as I can remember, Friday has been homemade pizza night. We used to also make a dessert and watch a movie together as a family- something we need to get back to.